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writes:if you get a new boyfriend or already have one dont be to clingy. act cold sometimes. do what you want and not care if they tell you you cant do that. it only makes you harder to get and thats what makes them want you even more. if a guy says this is not true. it is ive been through it. well only if hes like a jock type of guy. be confident and happy. if he doesnt call and lets you know where hes at act like you dont care. soon he will want you to care and try getting your attention. dont get mad or make a little thing into a big thing. dont cry too many times he will be used it and not care. never push or hit a guy because then there is disrespect and can lead him to hitting you. then this will never stop. try not to be too controling learn how to have fun with him. show him you can hang out with him and his friends. he will like this cuz he will have his girl and his friends. mens favorite people to be around. Reply to this Article
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Some of the things you say are good but some I think are wrong and possibly caused because at your age you still consider a 6 month relationship a long time.
As the other poster says, living a lie is hard. Don't play games because sooner or later you will not want to play games anymore and then it is to late or you find someone who plays even better then you.
Yes, you shouldn't be to clingy but that is because your life shouldn't revolve around your boy/girl-friend. You should have other intrests, but never act cold when you don't feel it, because time is to short. Relationships if they are going to fail need to fail quickly because live is to short to waste a year on something that isn't going to work out. Do the math, if you have ten failed relations each lasting a year, you are 30+ with nothing to show for it but bitterness and lies.
Don't play games with your heart unless you want your heart to be played with.
No, you shouldn't cry to often, but if he makes you feel like crying a lot (in a bad way) then he isn't right for you.
If he constantly makes you mad, then again, he is not right for you.
If he makes you want to hit him, then he is not right for you.
Same goes the other way around of course.
If you got to pretend in a relationship to make it work then you seriously got to ask yourself wether this relationship is going to have a future.
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reader, sweetontweety7777 +, writes (5 September 2008):
 OMG guess your age makes your outlook on good relationships different than someone my age. sounds like you are just trying put on a show and not be real. if a person is clingy, why do they have to 'PRETEND" to be cold. pretending only lasts so long then what? you have to flip back into realilty baby. this is the reason guys take girls as a joke, always thinking we are saying one thing, while really wanting another. BE HONEST and life would be so much easier for everyone. We are who and what we are. first you have to be comfortable with who you are and what you are, then find someone who accepts EVERYTHING about you. You don't want to start a relationship on a bunch of crappy lies. JUST BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF, and him. life would be so much easier if no one had to put on a different personality for each person they meet just to fit in. SAD trying not to be harsh
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