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This guy at work stares and smiles at me! How do I approach him?

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Question - (11 December 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 12 December 2006)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I like this guy at work and i notice he stares at me and he smiles and I smile back, it's often enough to think he might like me. I really like him but I'm not sure how to go about approaching him as I might be getting the wrong end of the stick. What should I do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006):

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I spoke to him today, I had noticed he was giving a lad who sits right next to me his msn messenger address and looked over to me while he was doing this. I got the impression he wanted to give me it but he didn't. Later on him and another lad came over the sofa's where I was sitting on my own. The guy he was with sat on the sofa opposite me and the guy I like sat next to me! I was really chuffed! He sat with his legs facing towards me and I had my legs facing towards him. Which if I know my body language right that means we like eachother. Then I casually asked him if he would mind me speaking to him on msn messenger sometime and he said yes it's ok. When I got home I signed onto msn messenger and added him to my contacts, the moment I signed online he went online to and popped up to say hello. We were chatting for about 5 mins when he went quiet and then just signed offline without saying goodbye. Now I don't know what to think, apart from the worst! Any help please?

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (11 December 2006):

kellyO agony auntThen ask him out for a drink or a get together after working hours. Could be outing on a friday nite. See how he reacts if he is willing to go ahead. This will be a cosy way for the two of you to get to know each other outside the office and might give you the confidence to know if u want to take things further by the vibes he gives u as well as chemistry.

Have fun!

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (11 December 2006):

kenny agony auntHi there,

I really fancy this girl i work with in the office, and we have been flirting quite strongly over the past couple of months. I let her know my feelings for her by staring at her, and when she looks up we hold a gaze, then i smile, and invariably she does the same.

I appear quite loud and confident in the office, but when it comes to asking out someone i really really like, i just go to pieces, weak at the knees, butterflies racing round, im terrible, hence why i haven't asked her out.

This guy most certainly does fancy you, you woulden't hold eye contact and smile at someone you diden't like, well i woulden't anyway.

I would say get him on his own, maybe when he is making a drink or something a casualy ask him out for a Christmas drink, im sure he will jump at the chance.

Let me know how it goes, and good luck

x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006):

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Thank you for the advice. The guy I like, I forgot to mention I already know him. We started working at the same place at the end of october. We were in the same training group for our first week of work. Now we are in training together again for a different department. We started our training last week, which was when I noticed I lied him more than a friend. We have another 2 weeks together and we know each other to be able to chat and have a laugh. But it's became a bit hard to talk to him since I realised i like him. All of our training team have dinner together etc so he's always around. Two of my friends in my training seem to think he likes me as they notice him staring too. How should I go from here?

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A female reader, kellyO United Kingdom +, writes (11 December 2006):

kellyO agony auntHiya,

Well for starters u just need to introduce yourselves if u havent done so already.

Then u can invite him to coffee or lunch depending on his responses during the introduction. Create an atmosphete where u can get to know him but on a casual level. You dont want to come out too strong just in case u are misreading his intentions.

Goodluck dear.

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