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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This guy always sends me mixed signals! We have known each other about a year now, and we do flirt with each other! He has showed me many times that he like me! Trust me, the signs were there..and we are friends...but we just never seem to go beyond that. We have that, we make each other better people kind of effect on one another. The thing is.. Niether of us really..."Make the first move".so I just wanted some opinions something that happened just this week...I saw this guy, after class earlier this week and we were just talking and then I had him help me with Math, he is like a Math WIZ! So I told him...I have a test this week, can you help me out? So we went to the library on campus and when we were done...we were leaving and I was assuming we were just gonna go our seperate ways..but he kept talking to me and then he said ohh man I forgot my keys..and we were just heading around the corner from where the table was that we were sitting ( meaning, we were not that far from the keys...lol) and I turned towards him and said..ohh well you should go back for them and he was like..."well, are you coming"? ( I was thinking...you need me to come w/you to get your keys?) And I said...Umm..do you want me to--- and then he was like...hold on, and he ran to the table got his keys and ran back. Maybe he was hoping I would go back with him so we could talk..b/c we were already alone..there was no one else around..Anyway, long story short, we were walking out and a girl in one of my other classes stopped me and as we were talking...he was like alight well, I guess I will see you ladies later...and he left. Now part of me feels like...Should I have just blew off my friend and ran and caught up with him, rather then talk to her? It was not like he was acting like he wanted me to stick around. At the same time...he was not letting me leave. My friend was heading to class..so it was not like we could go hang out or anything. So, really...I am feeling like...was it my fault this time...should I have just kept walking with him and not have stopped to say hello. Maybe something between us finally would have been put out there. Its like I said...everytime we are alone and finally it seems we can just talk things out ( our feelings), something messes it up. EVERY TIME! And the other thing that gets me is that...he didnt invite me to do anything with him after, I mean...he was like walking with me and we were just walking and talking together, and it was so almost random...I was like thinking to myself...so do I go...or do you want me to stay with you, like go grab something to eat or something? It just felt, random..like he was going to do something....and then it just didnt happen...AGAIN...=/
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): The good news is that you're friends and he really does seem to like hanging out with you. The bad news is that it doesn't sound like you really want to date him. Do you really want to take the plunge? If it doesn't work out, you may not be able to go back to being friends. If you're still interested and haven't already, try asking him to hang out on a weekend somewhere you both like (not at school, the movies since you won't be able to talk, and definitely not shopping!) Dress a little nicer than you normally would or try a new hairstyle - if he compliments you on your new look, you'll know he's actually paying attention to you. If he acts standoff-ish and has that "is this a date or isn't it" look on his face, he might not be your Romeo.
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