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The sex with my new girlfriend is not as good as the sex I had with my ex... What do I do?

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Question - (18 August 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 19 August 2008)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im very happy with this new girl im with. i trust her. we communicate very well and we arent bored with each other. but the only problem is the sex. im happy with the oral but the few times we had sex. its not as good as my other sex life i had. in the end im happy emotionaly. but i really like sex. my and my ex-gf had great sex all the time. im just confused... i dont want to cheat. bc i feel changed with this new girl. what do i do

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A female reader, chloe71z United States +, writes (19 August 2008):

chloe71z agony auntyes I do understand and If you are not physicaly attracted to her when it comes to sex then you need to move on because if your not then you will be more inclined to cheat later on even if you dont want to now. Its not fair to her for you to feel that way. She need to have someone who is physicaly and emotionaly attracted to her to make her complete. Same goes for you.

I hope this helps but only you can make this decision. If you can look past the physical part and relize what a good woman she is. Find what attractede you to her in the first place then stay and try to work it out.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008):

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i like this girl. we are emotionally and mentally connected. its just i dont think im physically attracted to her when it comes to sex. does anybody understand?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008):

Communicate! Tell her wot & how u like it.I`m sure she would like to please u and may even have a couple of changes she would like u to make, mate.

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A female reader, chloe71z United States +, writes (18 August 2008):

chloe71z agony auntYou need to teach her how you like it so she can make you happy. watcha a porno together or something. The only way she is going to be able to please you is if you tell her how you like it. I have to tell my husband how i Like it. Women are not mind readers, contrary to what you men might think. If you dont like it a sertain way or if you have a favorite position or if she needs to put more in to it or you want her to moan or make noise you have to tell her.

Hope this helps.

Take care

PS be nice about it.

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A male reader, loganjames United States +, writes (18 August 2008):

If you are going to leave your girlfriend because of the sex, you have something wrong with yourself, a relationship is NOT about sex, it's about love, and the experience, you should enjoy the fact that your having sex with her, and not that the sex isn't very good!

You should stay with her! Just because your other girlfriend gives you better sex, does not make her better in the long run!

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A female reader, SweettieXXI United States +, writes (18 August 2008):

Hi, I think you should talk to ur new gf about what is it that can make your sex life better. You guys have a good communication so it should not be hard to talk about this. My advise...try not to compare ur past relationship with this new one....Im telling you by experience. It is not a good idea to bring those memories back into the present. Hope it all goes well.

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