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writes: I'm hoping someone who has been in a silmilar situation can help me. My bf and I have been going out for over 2 years. He's 21 and I'm 20. Things have always been amazing between us until recently. We moved in together 4 months ago and now our relationship feels like it's holding on by a thread! We fight all the time over stupid things, I nag and he fails to pull his weight etc. We never used to fight, and we have said things that are really hurtful to each other. I think we are both holding a lot of resentment. I don't know how to get out of this cycle! I really don't want this to end our relationship because it was so good when we weren't living together but saw each other everyday. Has anyone got any advice as to how to deal with this?
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reader, person12345  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 Unfortunately a lot of guys seem to expect the woman to do the housework and cooking and such. You need to sit down and write out the chores that HAVE to be done regularly and divide them up. You're both young so I'm assuming you're both fairly new to having to keep up an apartment/house. It's difficult to keep track of what needs to be done when. He might be more willing to help out more if he has it written out in advance exactly what he has to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): Sometimes living together can be really difficult because instead of living everyday for yourself you are adding a whole new dynamic, another person. You have to adjust accordingly. Some people are bad with change. The most important things are communication and patience. if there is something bothering u, approach him in a mature way and respectfully. Don't make him feel like u are nagging even tho that may be what u want o do. And overall just remember you love each other if you want this to last you have to work at it. Maybe you can see a counselor together if you have trouble communicating or are not getting through. Good luck, I hope this helps :)
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