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writes:I've been in a long distance relationship (I'm in England he's in Scotland) for the past 4 1/2 years.We haven't met up as much as I would like and sometimes this has taken it's toll and we've fallen out for a few days.The past few times he's has supposed to meet up he's come up with excuses - not well (which he wasn't) too busy (he has just started his own business) and some other things.He let me down again this week and I told him he didn't want to b with me enough and that if he really wanted to be with me he could be, he replied that he loved me and cared about me, but he didn't want/have time for a relationship and that he thinks we should end things and move on, he says we want different things for the future esp. the short term.I'm absolutly deverstated and we have talked about kids, marriage and me moving up there to be with him, all my furture plans revolve around him. We had a very loving relationship, with lots of laughs and I thought we were soul mates, and I know I'll never love anyone like I do him.I would like to know what other people think and is us breaking up the answer? I'm so confused between my heart and my head I can't think straight. I know I should move on but I feel like the future is bleak and lonely with out him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): I am afraid the choice to break up isn't there anymore. He broke up with you! I am sorry but I think he either met someone else or decided that the long distance thing is just too much of a hassle, or not fulfilling enough. Or perhaps him starting his own business makes him feel like he can get better now that he is sucessful. I am sorry but the truth hurts & you must accept it & move on with yourself.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 It is not the end of the world . Cheer up! There are other more men who can be more loving and better than him.You maybe disappointed and sad but don't wallow in self pity for too long.
If you fall down , get up and walk again. You are made of sterner stuff.Look at this issue positively. He was not made for you and it is his loss.You deserved some one better.
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