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writes: There is a girl that I like. I told her how I feel and I kissed her. She even kissed me back but she tells me that she has a boyfriend. I don't understand because she kisses me any time I want her to. Does she like me or is she confused as well?
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reader, Happygoddess +, writes (26 September 2005):
It means she is cheating on her boyfriend with you! How would you feel if she were your girl and went around kissing some guy any tme he wanted?? Food for thought... good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2005): People don't usually change, and if she can't stay loyal to her boyfriend then she most likely won't stay loyal to you. Even if her boyfriend is a complete ass, she should have enough integrity to break things off. Girls that usually do this, do it because they aren't strong enough to be alone and need to find something better before they can leave. Being with someone that's this insecure brings with it a lot of other problems. You can surely do better!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 September 2005):
 She's probably more confused than you are.
If she has a "boyfriend", why is she sneaking around his back and kissing you? That's not very respectful of him, is it?
She needs to make up her mind once and for all, who she wants. If she wants to stay with the poor guy who thinks he's her only boyfriend, then she has to stopping kissing you and leading you on. And if she wants you, she needs to be honest enough to break it off with him.
Now, have you thought about this possibility? If she thinks nothing of cheating (that is, kissing you) while she's technically in a relationship with someone else, what's she doing behind *your* back? How can you trust her not to do the very same thing to you? The answer is, with great difficulty.
This girl sounds like trouble and either one, or both, of you boys are going to get hurt. Imagine how you'd feel if you were her "boyfriend" and you found out what's going on behind your back. You'd be hurt and angry, and rightfully so.
The best thing to do - if you insist on having this particular girl - would be to stop spending romantic time with her, until you know that she's broken up with her current boyfriend. Even then, I'd keep your eyes open and not depend on her to be especially loyal to you.
Even better would be to give this girl a wide berth, and to find a girl who only wants you and is single and free.
Think about it.
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reader, kidrock +, writes (25 September 2005):
She must like you cause she kisses you back. Maybe she is afraid to break up with her boyfriend. Tell her to pick between her boyfriend and you. Then you will have your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2005): Probably both. I don't see a girl kissing someone unless they like them. However, kissing does not mean the same to all peoples in all cultures. Ask her. If she continues to have a boyfriend, find someone else to kiss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2005): To be honest with you, and i don't want to upset you, but it seems that this girl wants the best of both worlds. She probably kisses you because it's a sense of excitement. But on the other hand, she obviosly doesn't have a strong relationship with her boyfriend because she wouldn't kiss you if she did. I think you should just ask her where you stand because if she isn't interested in you as a boyfriend, you could be with somebody who is.
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