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writes:ex has been talking to me for almost a year now. He is now married. I only talk to him when he's working. He's retiring soon. I won't be able to call him because i won't know his schedule and he gives this to me so I know when to call him. What should I do?? I told him I'll miss talking to him, he didn't reply. Should I just wait to see if he calls me?? The ball's in his court!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): Hi CindyCares I did what you suggested I asked him directly on the phone "how do I get in touch with you after you retire"? He said, "I don't Know" Guess you were right, just filling his time while working. Just hurts, thats all. Thx for the advice!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 January 2013):
 He is married, do you even have to ask ?... not only married, but also clearly very protective of his free time and marital life, and very wary of anything that could rock the boat at home. Let him be, there's nothing in this for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): well doesn't he ever call you too or is it always up to you to call him?
be blunt and ask him up front what you should do to get a hold of him when he retires, is he comfortable with you calling him at the usual times (that way he can know when to expect your call and plan accordingly).
however, if he's now married, what's the point??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): Move on, you are just making yourself miserable and waiting for something that is not going to happen. He is interested in his marriage and not you therefore the lack of committment from him.
This is not healthy and you need to find someone that can give you everything , not a schedule to work on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): Sorry to break it to you, but the ball isn't in his court.
If he's married and clearly committed to someone else....
If he's treating you like leftovers and giving you a schedule to talk to him...
If he forgets to give you his schedule because he's got other things on his mind apart from talking to you...
Then I would think the ball is in your court to move on and find someone who is interested in you.
Good luck out there.
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