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writes:I have a few questions... I have liked this girl for a few years now and we have just been good friends. We have alot in common and I have the sense that she likes me too. She is always giving me random hugs and whatnot so I think it's time to ask her out and quit waiting. To tell you the truth I am scared to ask her out so how should I go about this.Question#2 Even though I like this girl a lot and really want to be with her more that I can explain I don't want to end up breaking up and losing her as a friend because as friends we go together like a PB and J. We both love racing and muscle cars, we both hunt, we both love poker and pool. You name it we both like it and this is why I am attracted to her but I don't want to lose her. What would you suggest?
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reader, audie  +, writes (10 February 2009):
 Man what i advise you is that you should find a time that you go out and that will be the right time to tell her whats from your heart .coz man you just doing no good or justice to your self better you know the truth whist you got time problabily she also waiting for you. I advise you to watch the movies just freinds. "Man you got to do what a man has got to do".
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reader, Tomas +, writes (10 February 2009):
I should have been more clear in my other answer. I don't think you declaring your interest ("you ever think about getting together? Me too!/neither!") is likely to ruin a friendship. Declaring your undying love for her soul ("you complete me"), maybe. Interest, nah. Especially in good spirits.You don't really risk anything, in my opinion, unless you both choose to.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (10 February 2009):
Since you have two people saying Yes, let me throw in a Maybe.I've been in some similar situations with very good friends of many years. In one case, she broke up with me and I still wanted her. We cared for each other but lost our friendship. In another, I broke up with her and felt terrible, and we lost our friendship. In the third, we got married and have been together 11 years and are crazy about each other.The problem is, you expect to look out for your friends, and expect them to do the same for you. But when one person feels more than the other, their obligations to their friend and to their own heart are at odds. The heart always wins. And the friend who wanted more can feel betrayed, because the other friend isn't playing by the rules. Friendship is flag football. Love is the NFL.That's not a reason to pass on this chance. When you wager a friendship on romance, you may get a perfect partner who you both love and like. But in my experience, you *are* risking the friendship, unless both of you are lucky enough to end up wanting the same thing.Good luck.
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reader, Mr hair man  +, writes (10 February 2009):
Mate i rele think u sud ask her out & its defo worth a shotwith all you's got in common but take it slow..that could end up being a very good relationship.
Try to get another freind to ask her out for you if you've no confidence but id recommend askin yourself it would mean more that way!
Best of luck hope it works out
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (10 February 2009):
I think you should ask her out and since it really seems like you guys have a lot in common and are really good friends, try to promise that nothing will happen to your guys' friendship if there is a break up or fight. If she says no when you ask her out, I know you'll be crushed but be happy that you have her as a friend atleast. Or another idea, if you have a friend or a friend of hers that you can trust completely, Have them go to her and find out if she likes you. If you find out she likes you, ask her out. If not, then just don't bring up the subject and stay friends.
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