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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I haven't spoken to my teacher for a year and then today I went up to him and spoke to him and I really don't know why, I needed to ask him for these sheets I did and then I asked him how he was as obviously I haven't spoken to him since June last year and well yeah, he said he was fine and I said, I was also fine. Then I said how's life and he goes well there's your sheets ignoring the question. Last year was awful regarding him and I know it was wrong of me to have spoken to him but now I don't know if he will tell anyone about what happened but to be honest it wasn't that bad was it?!We were told not to speak with one another but I guess he doesn't care about me one bit and I think that he never did because he made up a lot of stuff about me and I'm just stuck because I still don't know why he did this to me? and when I leave school I think I will ask him - my prior prost here:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/situation-with-teacher-and-me-and-i-dont.htmlI'm so confused and I'm just getting more and more upset about it - please help :(Should I wait till I'm 18 and track him down because my life is a mess? I'm moving schools in September and then yeah maybe I'll move on more, but I'm still in love with him no matter what happens - I would want to spend the rest of my life with him and I'm not joking, he was eveything to me - everyone says move on but I can't, I'm stuck and I feel like there's no way out, I've got better, oh I know that for sure but I'm not fully there and I touched his arm today and it felt so right with him again.
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (3 April 2009):
 what exactly happened that made him stop talking to you? you never say
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reader, mondie +, writes (2 April 2009):
He knows that getting involved with you could get him in to trouble and this climate is very hostile towards anyone who transgresses. he can't afford to explore his real feeliongs for you so he has to be curt and professional, otherwise the repercussions for him are dire. It is a shame because he is doing it due to the notion that to talk to you is jeopardising your safety and he must demonstrate that he is able to put your safety needs first. Consequently, he has to override your emotional needs and not regard them as relevant. You are going to have to suffer I believe and try to get over it. This is the painful by-product of the laws and attitudes that were formulated to 'protect' you.
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (2 April 2009):
Well sounds like he doesn't want any trouble and sorry to tell u this but that's what he thinks of u. I'm not sure if things came out about u guys because u wrote he said bad things about u and stuff that wasn't true. U can make him lose his job and everything he has worked for. I see this all the time on tv girls with big crushes on teachers and sometimes real love is there but ur to young and he doesn't wanna talk to u because of what happened and he might wanna keep it that way. I think u should respect that and leave it alone and don't ask him anything because if ur parents find out or anybody else he will lose everything and that's not worth it at all. U said u can't be without him bit ur gonna have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): not overly sure of your situation, even after going to the link page. But the fact that your teacher ignoored your question about his personal life suggests that he only wants to talk with you on a profesional level. Accept that as his job could be on the line if he and you were suspected of having anything more
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