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writes:My GF of 3.5 years recently broke up with me. She was hurt that she didn't feel I loved her anymore and that I no longer made her feel special. I felt the same way, I feared she no longer loved me which caused me to pull back and stop making her feel special/loved. We've been broken up about 6 weeks and have just recently begun speaking again. We've agreed that a lack of communication was the root of almost all of our problems. Neither of us felt loved or cared for anymore and neither of us ever did anything to fix the problem so it just spiraled into a painful break-up for both of us. We have both also agreed that our relationship is worth fixing and that we want to being taking steps to restoring our relationship without any guarentees of where its headed. I think she is still hurting and her family has begun to resent me for hurting her although I doubt they know the whole story. What can I do to ensure that our transition goes smoothly? I held back in the past about how strongly I felt and now I feel like I need to really show her how much she means to me (don't want to make the same mistake again) but I also want to respect her wish of "taking it slow." She is still hesitant to call me back or see me. Where can I go from here? How do I ensure that I am not rushing her? What can we do to re-open our lines of communication? I've apologized and taken responsibility for the ways I've hurt her and I think she has as well. What can I do to mend my relationship with her family? How do I make her comfortable to communicate with me again?
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (16 July 2009):
 Just talk to her.Tell her every thing you feel.Let her know where your coming from.And let her know you respect her wishes and that you are there for her anytime she needs you.
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