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writes:So there's guy at my school (he works at the school) and I'm a female student in high school. For some reason during lunch he stares at me. When he is outside supervising kids, he stares at me. Outside in the pick-up and bus areas he stares at me. We have never talked, he doesn't know me and I don't know him. I have noticed all the staring that happens, though. When I look at him to see if he is staring, he is staring, and I turn away feeling uncomfortable. So can you explain what may be going on? Not exactly in detail though, I don't expect you to know, but just help me with this dilemma. Feeling really confused with my feelings...Once this guy and I almost bumped into each other outside of the school buildings. We just stood there looking at each other. His face had a very weird expression, like, looking at me with interest. I had on a look of disbelief, thinking why he was looking at me like that. After that, I turned and walked away. That was weird.I think that guy is kind ok-looking. But I would never have a relationship with him. It's just weird you know. Besides, this guy is a School Resource Officer (school cop in other words). So yeah, can you guys give me any advice on this topic? Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): If you stare at someone they stare back. It doesn't mean that he's a paedophile for feck's sake!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): its his job to watch all of you this might sound harsh but you might just have one of thows faces. for exsaple when i cut my hair short it makes me look kinda rought looking so i use to get followed around some of the shops i was in by members of staff and the odd police officer would give me a strage look. i now have longish hair and look cuddly lol now im not saying that your the same as me but that might be the resson for the strage look he gave u when you bumped into him
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 Well done, "Stepford", for going against the flow of people who assume perversion as a first recourse. I think you have summarised the situation perfectly; wishful thinking on the part of the OP.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 March 2012):
 You must go to a trusted adult and TELL THEM about this man.... if your radar picks up something that makes you uncomfortable you have to learn to trust that...
Is there a counselor at school you can talk to about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): Tell your headteacher/principal obviously isn't right as your age says your a teen so definately tell teaching staff ASAP and your parents. There are too many weirdos around to take a risk, someone attempted to take me once, it was a random opportunist, its horrendous so you've noticed odd behaviour please tell someone it could potentially save you OR someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): He is paid to look at all of you - to supervise you on school property. It seems to me that you are the one who is noticing him - you seem to look at him a lot. You say he is "ok-looking", so my guess is you are interested in him. You also say you would never have a relationship with him, that language also confirms my suspicion that you are the person who is interested and doing some staring of your own.He didn't even speak to you when you bumped into him outside the school buildings. He was probably wondering why you were standing in front of him at all.Up to now he isn't doing anything wrong. He is doing his job - he is paid to watch the schools' pupils. Unless he actually speaks to you in an inappropriate way, or attempts to touch you in an inappropriate way - IGNORE HIM and let him do his job!It would be a different matter if he was to start turning up at your home, or where you socialize with your friends outside of school and stare at you ... that would be something you should definitely tell your parents.But, up to now, this man (who you are noticing) is doing his job supervising (which means watching) school pupils on school premises.
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reader, AllTimeHoe +, writes (28 March 2012):
First of all, this being the US and you being 13-15 I think this is ridiculous. To me the man sounds as if he could be a pervert or pedophile. Don't associate with him in that way. Remember you are underage and he is clearly in his 20's. So the fact he is even staring is suspect. I'd tell other teachers, and let them know .
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reader, JaneSmith2012  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 Easy ... pretend as if he doesnt exist ... dont even look in his direction ...He's probably doing this over and over again coz he's noticed that you've caught him staring and that you are irritated by it ... The problem here is he just keeps looking at you and that too in public spots in the school aurrounded by people ... There's little you can do about this unless he is stalking you or making inappropriate gestures or passes at you or is misbehaving (in which case you can royally file a complaint).There's no point confronting people like him because they'll deny it anyway . Just ignore this creep .. If he still does not stop staring , he'll probably end up attracting attention from others who would have noticed his wierd behaviour and that would ultimately force him to stop...
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