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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello, My boyfriend and I are planing to move in together, I am renovating my home to rent it out and moving to his place an hour away. The past two weekends he was suppose to me help me as time is running short and the list of thing to be done is huge. He cancelled the 1st weekend saying he couldnt afford it but said he would be here the following weekend and even told his 12 year old son that they would be coming here to help with the reno's. Part way through the week he tells me this weekend will be though as his son now has a baseball game on Saturday and a birthday party on Friday night. Knowing full well he told me he'd be here as I have worked endless hours day and night to the point of exhaustion and have possible tentants coming on sunday. I am very upset feeling like getting the stuff done to make it possible to move there is not a priority to him. I have made concessions in the past to make his sons wants a priority and I dont think he's being fair to let his 12 year old call the shots when something of this importance is at hand. I dont expect that I am a greater priority than his child however I do expect we prioritize important things over something like an last minute bday party and a little league ball game. I just dont know what to think? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 His priority is to be a good dad who is actively involved in his son's life. You should be thankful for that- it shows he is a caring,mature guy who takes seriously his parental responsibilities
You said you make "concessions " in favour of his son but it's not about conceding : simply, you are dating the father of a 12 years old boy- you accepted the whole package. The boy is a fundamental part of yr bf's life, it's not a hobby that he should cut on to accomodate your preferences.
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