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*rosty666
writes:Does she like me or not???I met this girl who works for the same company as me on a social networking site after she seeked me out. We met properly on separate nights out with friends and we got on really well and I asked if if sher fancied maybe going for a drink sometime. She said yes.The next day she would hardly take me on when we spoke. Then eventually she said that she had just broken up with her boyfriend of seven years and had lots of things to sort out,which i understand. However she says she does want to go out with me but just not right now. It always seems to be me that makes the effort to talk to her and sometimes I get the impression that she does not want to talk to me at all really. But she always asks me if i am going out to the local nightclub at the weekends though and if so she will see me there. I'm so confused. I really like her but feel like i'm being messed around a little. Can anyone make any sense of all this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): I know I can't see your side, but you can't see hers either. I have been dating a guy for over 7 years, and this summer we broke up. We are back together and trying to figure everything out, but it is difficult. If you haven't ever been in a relationship that long, it is impossible for you to understand her mindset. She probably acts like she does because she does like you and would be so thankful if she could just move on. But, I mean my word, when someone has been the most important part of your life for 7 years, there is so much pain when it is over. I'm sure that everytime she says she wants to hang out, she means it. But she HAS to still wonder about him. And coping with not being that important to you ex is difficult as well. It is equivalent with being demoted from a job you've had for 7 years. You can't understand why, even if you chose to be demoted(break up).
If you are strong enough and can muster it, be patient with her. She probably really does like you but her confusion in her current situation is clouding all reason. The best thing you can do is be a friend. You can be persistent, but don't be PUSHY. There is a difference! When her emotions have straightened out, she'll come around.
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reader, niceguy34  +, writes (5 December 2007):
Iam in the same sitiuation,i love this girl but hse seems to let me do the calling due to she said we moved to fast and needs to focus on son. You should just keep it polite when you see her make her chase you!Keep it friendly hope it helps!
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