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writes:So my ex and I broke up in October of last year, we had an on and off thing going on since May. I lost my virginity to him which was a huge deal to me but I can't figure out if I'm attached to him b/c I lost it to him or if I would be as attached if I didn't. When we were together he was really nice to me, made me dinner, took me on dates and even when we hung out after the break up it was like we were still together. In May he moved to Florida and I'm still in Maryland and we didn't speak all this summer. So the other night I texted him just to say hi and then I accidentally drunk dialed him and we talked for a long time but I don't remember it. Even though he never initiates conversation he always responds immediately when I do. I've been on other dates with guys traveled all around the world this summer I'm very active and I've tried to get over him through several means. I just don't know what to do, should I try to maintain a friendship with him or just completely cut him off cold turkey like I did for the last 3 months? Do you think he's over me? Sometimes I think I love him and other times I hate him or don't even care about him? What's going on in my head? Sorry this is long but can someone help me figure this out? I'm 21 and current student and he's 25 and a grad student
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Since u say sometimes u feel like u dont really care about him shows that u dont really want to get back together with him, but u do still care about him. I dont think cutting him off completely is going to make you feel any better because of your history with him. You will always love him in some way, that might be why u feel so attached to him.
Chances are hes just as confused as you so the best thing u can do is talk to him.
Tell him how ur feeling and ask him what he feels and ask what he wants to do.
If you wanna stay friends then do, you obviously still care about him, but it looks like getting back together wouldnt work out for you.
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