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36-40,
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writes:i broke up with my girlfriend a month ago due to some genuine reason because i didnt love her...i broke all contacts with her as per the advices given by people on DC ...i resisted her to the core and completely pushed her away from my life by changing my mobile number to deleting my facebook account...she was a real sweetheart to be with and is was heart wrenching for me to stay away from her ...!but i knew that i have to take it very practically if i have to get over her and i became a bit harsh on her i guess...now the problem is that i miss her a lot....i know it has only been a month but my heart has become sick of missing her ...i feel so incomplete as my life revolved around her and i feel it has stoped ..! she said i am the best thing that has ever happened to her and she can never forget me...i feel more pain when i think about her and it really wrenches my heart inside..! i just want to see her happy thats it ! sometimes i regret for not accepting her friendship but i know it wouldnt have cooled down the matter and i console myself by reminding the same thing ...the situation is so damn confusing ...!!!!! i dont love her but i love her in some way i know and have got addicted to her ...i myself pushed her away from me but i fear that she will go far away from me and i wont ever get to see her love and care again ..! i am in an emotional roller coster ...sometimes i feel better for what i have done and the next moment the same fear arises and it is so painful to lose a girl who really had loved me from her true heart and was so crazy about us..! what is happening to me ?? i miss her very much ...i know it is not too late but also i dont want to go back to her and fake i love her...! it really required a strong heart and effort to stay away from her and reduce the addiction ...ofcourse on the cost of hurting her ..!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 April 2009):
Ah, there is nothing like no knowing what you had till it's gone.
You are missing your routines, you are missing the intimacy and most of all you are missing the deep friendship.
But you say even now that you DO NOT LOVE HER.
So yes, send her an email or a letter and apologise for being an arse, explain that you don't love her and you never EVER will. But that you miss her friendship and if she is ready to be friends again and NOTHING more then you would love to see her.
When you do see her then stay friendly and remember everything about her that you didn't like. Do not lead her on by saying you are confused and that you miss he sex and companionship.
The anonymous person is wrong. DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS. Can you imagine how hurt she has been by you and then to have you giving her hope for NO REASON would be cruel and unfair.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): Sorry but I dont really understand.. your saying you dont love her but your nearly sick with the tought of not being with her,you say you miss her like mad but you dont wana be with her?! Do you not think that you are fallin in love with her and your maybe just thinkn 2much into this or maybe you love her as a friend and are not actually IN love with her or maybe you know this girl is safe because as you said she "was crazy bout us" and you prob dont wana lose that..I dont know what advice to give bcos i dont really understand,you must of ended if for another reason if you changed your number..I think you should talk to her and tell her how your feelinggoodluck x
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