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*eckX
writes:My boyfrend and I live in separate cities we love each other dearly so we try as much as we can to see each other but sometimes I feel like I'm trying a lot harder than he is , he would take about 3 days without calling or texting and when I ask him why he says he's been busy , I ask him if he wants to come and see me this tym round since I always go up to his evrytime and he says he has to work. I don't even get an I love you wen we talk on the phone ,the other day he asked me 2 leave my place and go live with him but I'm a bit reluctant because even wen we see each other we don't do anything special like movies or walks in the beach he just wants to have sex and go to sleep and we seem boring because we don't talk about anything special. I wanna be with him so badly but sometimes he just makes me feel like he's only with me for sex.
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reader, BeckX +, writes (4 March 2012):
BeckX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankx a lot I'm gonna talk to him and see where it will take us
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2012): I think you're right OP. It seems the only interesting thing you do is have sex. You don't really talk, he's not making any effort to connect to you emotionally, he doesn't make any effort to come see you and you don't even do anything else but have sex. You're essentially only boyfriend and girlfriend in name only. You are basically fuck buddies.
Take sex out of the equation for a while and see what happens I bet if there is no sex OP then there'll be nothing left. But to be honest I don't know what else you expected from a long distance relationship.
Look it's like this, you may love him but you have needs and he's not fulfilling them is he? So you have to talk to him and tell him what you need. You need him to make more of an effort, you need him to come see you instead and you need him to actually date you and do things together as a couple that don't involve having sex. It's all well and good him saying that he will do those things but if he doesn't actually do those things and it still remains in the current situation then you're just going to continue to feel used and you may well have to consider walking away because love is never enough of a reason on its own to stay with someone who is not giving you what you need.
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