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writes:I have a boyfriend. And I love him. I really do, but I just can't help but seeing his flaws all the time. He is not really smart, he's a little immature and sometimes I just can;t help but being irritated by his behavior. But he's really sweet and he makes me happy most of the time. But I always dreamed of the perfect guy. The smart, sensitive, sweet, handsome kind. Which happens to be one of my friends, that is completly in love with me for over 4 years... But I don't know if the spark is there... So the not perfect guy with spark or the perfect guy with a little less spark... I really need your advise.
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reader, mooh  +, writes (20 June 2012):
There is no such thing as perfect, I think that if you date mr. perfect little by little you will most probably see things that are not so perfect or other aspects of his character you haven't noticed before.
Regardless of chosing between your bf and the perfect guy, this also means that you have been looking around and weighing what other options you may have. Even if you have more feelings for your bf, do you feel happy with him or do you feel like something is missing, or maybe somethings are starting to look not so bright with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, thanks for your advise, but I think the point is that you always keep wanting the other guy ( you can't have at the moment) and you are in the same situation, but on the other side of it. So you miss the spark right now and I miss the perfection haha. ;)
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reader, marjieex3  +, writes (20 June 2012):
I have your same dilemma. But in my case, my boyfriend is the perfect guy but with less spark. :( Honestly he is a great guy but my friend who is not so perfect has more spark. Spark matters a lot more than you think. You should always go with the guy who can make you happy. Even if they are so annoying or irritating or exasperating but at the end of the day, you sleep with peace in mind and happiness in your heart. I would honestly be with the guy who is less perfect and more spark. That is what I would do.
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