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writes: i cant stop be possesive with my boyfriend he first had sex with me and i think that he is going to want to try it with someone else and he likes to go out with his mates for a game of poole he dosent go out very often he dosent drink i say i trust him just not women around him were both nearly 18 we have been together nearly 2 years we have lived together a year and a half what can i do i just really really want to change and be a better person for myself and my boyfriend sarah x x Reply to this Question
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reader, AskSusie  +, writes (27 July 2008):
Sarah,
Trust me when I tell you that you are only 18 and this is not the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. I've been in your position and spent so many days agonising over the wrong guys, now that i'm 29 I think to myself 'Why didn't I spend the same amount of time and energy improving myself and my life'.
You don't need a guy to be happy, you need to focus on yourself and improve yourself. The guys will flock to you naturally when you are in this frame of mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2005): I've been there, It doesnt sound to me like you trust him. Ask yourself why you dont trust him and talk to him about it. You dont need to change, you need to communicate with your partner, dont fly off the handle and dont jump to conclusions. Listen to him and get him to listen to you. If he's willing to make it work as much as you, in time you'll start feeling more secure in yourself and start trusting him again. Theres no quick fix, so be patient and hang in there.
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A reader, lisa, writes (28 February 2005): You don't need to change at all. You should try your hardest to get over what you're feeling. I've been there. It's hard, I know, but if you start acting up you may lose him all together.
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