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writes:There's these two friends that are very close. They both talk smack about each other behind their backs and tells me everything. And they don't want me to tell anyone anything. If I tell them to confront one another they'll say "she'll take it the wrong way" and some other stuff. If I decide to tell them what they are saying to each other i'll feel like I betrayed their trust. If I don't, i'll feel like a fake friend that no one can trust. I don't know what to do! Help me please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys. :)
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 No way!!!! Id take them both out at the same time and then id sit in a cafe and tell them both the shit they say to each other... id tell them both to wake up and realise theres more bullshit in this world to worry about than you two pickerninnies naging to me about you both, tell them that you like them both their good friends but the craps gotta stop and you dont want apart of it no more, so either make up or dont bring it up to me again.
Somtimes friends need to hear this stuff. You never know they might end up being good mates.
or;
Next time your with either one of them just tell her you dont want to hear about it anymore and talk about something else.
If you don't do one of the above someday, some weird way its gonna all backfire onto you.
Cheers.
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 I agree with boobunny. The thing about people who easily gossips and say negative things about others behind their back, tend to do it indiscriminately too. Next time, it may be you that they talk smack about.
Next time they badmouth anyone, just tell them you are not interested, and if that did not work and they kept yakking ... just cover your ears and after a few minutes say "are you done yet?" and smiled. LOL
Cat
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Stay out of it! If they have beef with each other, they need to take it up with each other. My advice is to tell them both that you don't want to hear their smack-talking anymore and that if they have a problem with each other to bring it up to someone else, or each other for once, because you're done being stuck in the middle. That way there, you're not betraying anybody or lying to anybody, and you're standing up for your own feelings on all of this. You're supposed to be their friend, not their couples' therapist. Make sure they get that straight. I hope everything works out okay! Take care! Best of luck!
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