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writes: I am trying desperately to work things out with my girlfriend. We broke up about a month ago but I really want to try again. Our relationship was not perfect for a couple of months before it ended, but it still had A LOT going for it. My question is, should you expect EVERYTHING to be perfect in a relationship, or just accept that some things will REALLY bother you about the other person? If my girlfriend wants to try again (as I do), then she really could be 'the one' for me - I WANT someone who will fight for our relationship in the same way as I am doing. But if she decides against it, then clearly she isn't 'the one'. It's so hard, though, knowing that SHE has the power to decide if she is 'the one' or not - it's out of my hands. I know some people will say that she obviously isn't 'the one' if we have broken up and if she even has to THINK about whether to try again or not. My friend recently said to me that in a relationship, there will be things that you don't like about that person, but you will KNOW they are 'the one'. He said that it doesn't seem as though my (now ex) girlfriend is 'the one' for me - but I honestly thought she was. Sorry this is so long, just need a word of advice from anyone. Thanks.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Nothing in life is perfect I am very sorry to say (except for me lol) After the honeymoon period has faded (and this can be weeks months or years) there will always be thos little niggles that irritate each other. If the niggles turn into something fundementally difficult to overcome then you have serious problems.
You cannot like EVERYTHING about another individual because that is precisely why we are all individuals..
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (8 March 2006):
 Maybe it would help if you told us the reason behind you split...Girls canbe very complicated creatures
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