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writes:I have known this guy for a year. He is a good friend to me but last year he didn't say Happy Birthday to me. Even though everyone said happy birthday to me around school. I was so shocked and now his birthday is coming around should I say happy birthday to him. Why would he not say it to me? He has shown interest in me lately. He smiles a lot at me, I know his friends and they're nice to me, his cousin is my best friend, we talk to each other and he makes me laugh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): It sounds like you are building up resentment towards him. For whatever reason he didn't, you shouldn't use that as a reason NOT to say it to him. Whether you say it or not, you're probably still going to feel the same unless you bring it up. If you don't wish him happy birthday he may ask why, but that's only if he's bothered. If he didn't forget it was your birthday or didn't know, then you have your reason. If you want to wish him happy birthday, then do so, if you don't want to, then don't, but there's more harm in not doing so. After all it's a birthday wish, either he appreciates it or he doesn't. If he doesn't, then you'll know he wasn't bothered about your birthday (if he knew about it).
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reader, Kirstyteenauntireland  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 I think you should say happy Birthday. If he,s a good friend to you then i would say Happy Birthday. Mabye he didn't know it was your birthday or mabye he was in the same dilema that you are in now. :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): if you want to wish him a happy birthday, then do. You shouldnt base your actions on what he did. That is being petty. Be who you are. At his age he probably doesnt have a clue that it even mattered. Sweetie, guys dont think like we gals do. It takes some of them several years to understand what matters to us...but its not done deliberately to hurt us so dont read too much into this and dont hold it against him. Good luck!.
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reader, Abby_AuToPsY  +, writes (12 September 2009):
It's always nice to wish someone happy birthday (:But you sound like you're stressing over it too much. I mean, its just two words to show you remembered.Maybe he didn't know it was your birthday, he didn't see you or he just wasn't as close to you back then. I'm sure if you explain you were hurt by him not saying it, he would apologise.It sounds as if he really likes you. I think if you like this boy, you should wish him a happy birthday. Just to show you care about him and remembered. and I bet you he'll wish you Happy Birthday next year ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): Saying happy birthday is a respectful thing to do, no matter the situation. It is possible that he wasn't aware that it was your birthday, or if he was aware he may have been too shy to say. If I was in your shoes, saying happy birthday and asking how his day went would be a nice thing to do and help his interest in you.
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