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*ayjaysgirl
writes:I have been with my husband for 6 years. Hes been in prison for the past 2 years. I am struggling with whether i should go out on my own or stay here waiting for him. He was not always the nicest guy he called me and my kids names and he hit me a few times which is what landed him in prison. He tells me hes changed and that he will never hurt me again but ive been told by so many people that they never change. When i think about leaving i get panic attacks and its hard to breathe sometimes. I feel like im going crazy. Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm lost and i need help. Oh and im also lookin at being homeless and the only place i have to go is another guy's house.. I've got 3 kids and i need help to make the right choice.
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reader, jayjaysgirl +, writes (5 August 2010):
jayjaysgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe are now in a shelter... At least until we figure out what we are gonna do. My aunt in law kicked us out offically today and since we didnt have enough money to get to oregon and there was nowhere else to go... Here we are. I am going to talk to the person in charge and see how they can help me to find a way to move on even tho it hurts its probably for the best.
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reader, canttoleratebs +, writes (4 August 2010):
This is really a situation that requires alot of thought. However, these children should not be miss treated and should never be denied a decent meal for any reason. As far as you moving in with another guy be very aware of what your getting into. Be very clear if this will be just a friend thats looking out for the well being of you and your children or, are you getting into a relationship? Remember, lots of prisoners say things that sound good when they are locked up but when they get out its another story. Im sorry your going through this but my honest opinion is you should move on, if he had not done wrong he would not dwell behind bars. You and those children deserve better than him and his family. Good Luck, I wish you well.
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reader, jayjaysgirl +, writes (4 August 2010):
jayjaysgirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlot of people have told me that living with another guy is wrong. My husband has been gone 2 years and its been absolute hell the whole time. Me and my kids have lived with his family and they have verbally abused my kids horribly. There is a chance he could make parole next month but no guarantees. Ive been told to stay here and wait for him but we are being kicked out with nowhere else to go. My kids couldnt even eat a decent dinner tonight because my aunt in law refused to let me make anything decent to eat for them. I feel so worthless and alone...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Definitely go to the other guys house. Your children should always come first. Forget about your wife beating husband for a moment, please. And help your kids, they need somewhere to live.
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reader, michaelch +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I believe you should go to the other guy's house. Your kids should come first. They NEED a place to stay, and if this guy can offer it than you should take it...
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