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writes:Im going on a date with this girl i really like, and all signs point to her liking me as well, but there is a minor problem, my last realtionship that ended 2months ago i was engaged to marry her. Even though im completely over my ex and want to move forward with this new girl im afraid of telling her that i was engaged. Im afraid shes going to freak out and lose interest, what should i do and how far into this should i wait to tell her?
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reader, citic101  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 Its your first date ? talk about light things movies , music , painters , art etc . there is plenty of time to tell her about your ex if you want to, but i woundt say to much " if you get a second date ( perhaps you will not )and IF ex's comes up in conversations , say "we split us as friends and you respect her, it was mutual decision" You dont want to tell all the secrets to soon.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 You make it sound like you have done something wrong. It shows you are willing to comit, can love someone and be loved in return etc why would you worry about someone knowing that. Having said that I wouldn't say anything yet as there is no reason to, if things get more serious you could bring it up. Plus you want to create the best impression possible especially on the first date and to provide too much information at that stage can colour the first impression. Let her get to know you first.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (30 June 2009):
Well dont wait too long, then it may seem like you were trying to hide it and she might become suspicious. I wouldnt bring it up on your first few dates either though. Let it come naturally, chances are a conversation about both of your relationship history will come up- then you can mention it when its natural. Instead of "hey how ya doin, oh I was engaged two months ago!" that was a bit of an exaggeration but I'm sure you know what I'm saying. For all you know she may have some things in her past that she's wondering when she should tell you about them!
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