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writes:hi, i would really appreciate any advice you can give me as i'm stuck on what to do. i recently met a guy online, i didnt expect anything to happen as i live in ireland and he lives in scotland. for some reason we just clicked in every aspect, we can talk for hours about anything, we make each other laugh and smile and silly things like that. i know he likes me and i like him but lately when he's been away due to work i've found that i miss him more each day and get excited when i know hes due home and we'll be able to talk again. when he isn't away we are in constant contact. we have the type of friendship where we constantly tease each other and he says things that make me feel like he sees me as more than a friend but then i think i maybe looking far too into it.my problem is that he makes me nervous (in a good way, the butterfly kinda way) i've never felt this way before and i keep telling myself its crazy cos we dont live close, i've done long distance before and had no problem with them. we are due to meet soon but i find myself developing feelings for him and im not sure how to go about this? usually i can say how i feel but with this guy i cant and its driving me insane. he is so kind and caring and not like my previous boyfriends. i know there is alot of negative views on meeting people online but if you click with someone then who is to say it is wrong, if it doesn't work out then you learn from your mistakes and class it as experience. we've seen each other on webcam and i know alot about him and i know he is the real deal.my question is this, should i tell him how i feel even though i dont know how to start or where to begin and risk losing our friendship if he doesn't feel the same way or should i just keep quiet about the whole thing and hope my feelings will pass?
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reader, Spoz +, writes (20 May 2010):
Hey, it sounds as if you've thought this through and answered your own question already! *i dont know how to start or where to begin and risk losing our friendship if he doesn't feel the same way*This is something you're going to find when you meet up! Of course you can never tell for certain, but when you meet somebody and you instantly connect there are always signs and things that will point to this person liking you. My advice is to meet him with no pre conceived ideas. Look at this as a great experience to meet a good friend..whatever happens happens, and trust your gut instinct. We all get that gut feeling about other people so trust yourself and go with the flow.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Depends on how long you've been talking to eachother. Has it been 2 weeks or 6 months?
I'd just start by telling him how much you missed him when he's gone. If he tells you he misses you to then there is a good chance he feels the same way about you. IF that is the case, you can talk about meeting but no matter what BE CAREFUL. The webcam definitely helps, but if you do meet just do so in a public place. Have lunch and go from there.
If this is only a very new relationship (under a month) then i'd say slow it down and wait to meet....
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