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writes:My mother fears that I'm not "living up to my full potential." I don't see why because I'm in a school for gifted children (or teenagers, whatever), I was accelerated a grade, I currently have a 4.0 and I can get into college solely on scholarships. I volunteer, apart of a competitive dance team, and I play the cello. What does she want me to do? Cure cancer? The thing is that I'm very [extremely] lazy. I prefer to play video games with my friends and, I guess, not focus on school all the time. Plus my energy is drained really fast when I'm going, going, going. My mother knows this, but she wants me to join clubs and study all the time.Would it be disrespectful to tell her to "just lay off." If it is, what would be another way?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 March 2010):
 Well as a mother myself I can offer you this advice.
The reason that YOU are in accelerated program in a school for gifted children is as much BECAUSE of her as it is because of you.
I would suggest you DO talk to you mom about the video games & friends, you two set a limit you both can agree to and you stick to it. Having the homework out of the way before friends and video games is not a bad idea either.
Video games can improve your finger dexterity and that is about it. Everything else such as clubs, friends and volunteering can improve you mentally and socially, which is MUCH better all in all.
You know your mom is right, I'm willing to bet.
However, life should not just be work work work, so I also suggest you two talk about which clubs YOU want to pursue and which you don't. No point in joining clubs you really don't care for. It will only make you resent the "chore" of being in the clubs. Picking a few good ones I think is better then many lousy ones. Quality over quantity.
Another thing is: you mom most likely have a much clearer view of you real potential then you do. ;) Trust me on that and trust your mom.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 March 2010):
Ah, mothers. They really are looking out for us, but we sometimes don't see it.
She's concerned that although you're doing very well, you might fall at the final hurdle because of laziness, or that you'll become addicted to these games. As a show of faith to her, (because the fact is 99% of the time mothers DO know best), agree times that you go on video games, and other times that you will study. Continue your volunteer work, but don't agree to any clubs you don't want to do.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 It is disrespectful to say that to her. The best way is to prove to her with your excellent results. If your results are down , you need to buck up and concentrate on your studies.
She is concerned that you may get addicted to those video games and neglect your studies.
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