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writes: I have never told my current girlfriend of 10 months that I had a girlfriend before her and I always say that she’s my first love. My ex-girlfriend dumped me when she came to know that I was seeing this current girlfriend of mine behind her back for 3 weeks. I had spent 2 years with my ex-girlfriend and just betrayed her trust for no reason. I moved out my ex-girlfriend’s town with my current girlfriend within two weeks after being dumped by my Ex. If I tell my current GF that it was her that forced my Ex to dump me , then she too will dump me thinking if I could do it to my Ex , I can easily cheat on her as well? My conscious is blaming me too much for having done this nasty thing in the recent past, should I tell her or not? Help me please! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): You had a gf for 2 years and then u met your current gf, cheated on the other one, without the new one finding out she was the "other woman?"
U really did play around didn't u?
Yep your new gf needs to know about your past. Other people knew u were with your gf for 2 years so the truth is bound to come out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): I wonder why you want to tell her now, after all this time together.
The fact you have witheld it up to now, then confessing, will make you appear even more unreliable.Are you going to do it so she can make a choice for herself as to if she stays or goes - or to make yourself feel better?
I would tell her, because if somebody else does one day in the future, how will you explain. It is risky but I think you owe her the truth.Its long overdue
If you decide not to then you have to put it behind you and get on with this relationship.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 If it is playing on your concious then sometimes its best to get things out in the open, if you feel telling your girlfriend will give you peace of mind then just do it.
It is horrible when you have a secret and it just stays in your head and you dwell on it and dwell on it.
I can't say how your gf will react but if i had a bf who said they were cheating at the beginging of there relotionship i would be irrated and annoyed they didn't tell me sooner, but i would make an acception because it was early days but if it had gone on any longer than three weeks then i would consider how much i could trust him.
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