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writes:There's a guy... he's taken. I love him.I can't get him off my mind.He texts me loads outta the blue just to say " hey how are you?" and the other night he asked me to call him for a chat...He doesn't know I love him... I try to back off and give him one word answers, but he's a brilliant friend and I don't want to lose that friendship.. he thinks that I'm just ignoring him coz he's done something wrong but it's me who's thinking wrong...He keeps coming out with lines like " I miss you" and " I can't wait to see you baby blue! " that's my nickname.Obviously, this just makes me more liable to talk to him.Should I tell his girlfriend?Should I completely block him outta my life and lose a good friend?Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2007): Huni i gotta say that from the point of view of the girlfriend, cos ive been that girl, if u tell her shell be better off but u wont! hel hate you for ruining his relationship but shell be grateful. if you wana chance with him dnt tell but if your looking out for the girl then do it
gud luck huni xxx
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reader, nologo  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 Important: Is his girlfriend also your female friend?
For if you tell his girlfriend, you will face a choice.
My personal opinion here is that people should not choose between partners and friends at all.
Balance is needed between personal relationships (partners) and social relationships (friends).
And now about: "I don't want to lose that friendship".
You are likely to lose it unless he dumps his girlfriend.
"Should I completely block him outta my life" - If you CAN.
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reader, elsie  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 definetly DO NOT tell his girlfriend youll open up a whole tin of trouble and you dont know how shell react?she could turn on you!have you thought of that?you are very young and what you are experiencing sounds like an intense crush.if he is as much of a friend as you say he is then you have to tell him that you feel uncomfortable with the texts hes been sending you maybe they are totally innocent.it doesnt sound too heavy?explain it all calmly and dont mention his girlfriend or telling her anything or you probably will damage your friendship as he will feel threatened by this.good luck.
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