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writes:I have not seen my ex since I found out I was pregnant with his chid. Part of this is due to the fact that he's been out of town due to work. He's due to come back 9/12. I've spoken to him over the phone only to be insulted and told I need to abort Im 19 weeks and told him thats not an option. I could care less if he sticks around to me its more a matter of principle. Yes we did both use protection, however, I ended up pregnant and its his child. We both work together and that puts me in an awkward situation. He has not told anyone not ever his closest coworkers about the situation. I understand he wants nothing to do with me or the child, would I be pushing it if I try to talk to him face to face when he returns I feel its the right thing to do or should I just stop trying to establish any kind of communication and serve him with the child support once my child is born?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. He's not younger than me, he will be 37 shortly, I'm not sure if its because he's already paying child support for three of his daughters from a prior relationship which ended three years ago. Im a bit confused as he had mentioned before he wanted to start a family, I was the hesitant one here, but now the tables have turned and I just now see his true colors.
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (23 August 2009):
 First of all, you are right that abortion is no longer an option, and it would have been your decision, and your decision alone, anyway.
Now the child will be born, and the best option would be to bring him/her up together. Unless your ex is younger than you, he is old enough to settle down and accept that kind of responsibility. But of course you cannot force him, you can only offer to try rebuilding your relationship and become a family. If he does not want this, there is nothing you can do, except to sue for child support and find a new job where you won't have to see him every day and be reminded of his lack of responsibility and respect for you.
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