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writes:I have been so upset about my husband lieing.He would lie even when I seen it for my self.I left him for four mouth,well I went back to him about 2mouths ago.I thought I may have made him lie and it was all me.For a mouth now I that every thing go what has happend between us,I hurt so bad. Well he got a new cell.The one he had at work they took it back,He said that when he step down he's job they took his phone and his car and a cut pay,I thought something wasnt right about his cell phone he allways had one that his boss could keep up with him.I told my husand if I fond out he was calling other ladys on his phone again that would be the end of us.Well my mom is the one that helped us get both of are cell phones.My mom called and said he had used 1300 min in three weeks.I told her its the guys from work calling him and weekend and nights.I thought I would look to see ho he was talking to so much.There is a ladys number that I new about in the past.I have'nt said any thing to him.I know I cant trust him and his lies keep going on and on.Just two days ago he said he only talks to his boss.I look at him knowing he is lieing to me again.I cant even think about any thing but what is going on I stay in bed all day and when I am up eat and stay on the computer trying to figer out what to do.Please any one should I live him or stay? I love him but I cant keep going on this way.
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reader, eve567 +, writes (3 November 2009):
eve567 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for helping me out.I cant be with him and I know that.But life should go on!!!!
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reader, harlebabe  +, writes (24 October 2009):
I wish I knew the answer for you. Im in the same situation here too. You need to get a grip on him, cause the phone calls lead on to affairs. My husband started talking to a girl on the computer about a year ago. That lead to them passing phone numbers, I found out cause I saw noticed him online talking and when I would walk past the puter room he would zip the page down like he was hiding something. Later I went to the puter after he went to be and the site was still signed on in his name. I then saw messages about her loving hearing his voice on the phone early in the morning when she woke up. And had even fell in love with him !!! that blew me away they were states away from each other, from tenn to flordia. Well I confronted him and that came to a stop, and I knew it did !!
But here we are he has now been seeing someone at his work, and yes he added her on his face book. Suppose to just be a friend, that was at his work for about 5 years. I heard him talk about her, I never thought I had to worry about her. I was so wrong !!! About 2 months ago he was playing this game farm town on face book, I play it too. But there was too much one on one conversation I think between them, I think it got personal. Now her and her husband have split, they have 2 children. And I have went through 2 months of depression and pain, I am lossing my husband !!! We are sleeping in separate bedrooms, and he comes and goes as he wants and see who ever. Me the same, I have not dated yet !! But I am going to start going out tomorrow night. I love him so much, 13 years of marriage, never knew there where problems we could not work out. Until this home wrecker comes into our life and rips my life away.
So stop him now, do everything possible to hold on to him !!!
I wish I just had one more chance to show my love to my husband.
Huggs
Pam
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (24 October 2009):
 I'm really unhappy with these married men that lie and cheat so I'm going to be biased and tell you to leave him while you still have it in you, while your esteem isn't at rock bottom. Once your esteem hits an all time low, you will find yourself going back to him in order to have an identity and approval.
Right now, you are asking for the right kind of help rather than soaking up his lies and having mass anxiety over what he thinks of you and the relationship, this is a good sign. It means YOUR still in there somewhere fighting for what you know is right, for what you deserve in life....not looking to him to make it alright.
Staying with a man like this will strip you of your identity, your passion for life, and your self worth. Please save yourself and get out of this horrible marriage. He's why you are depressed.
Every time you go back, you lose more and more power and more and more of yourself until you won't be able to recall who you are anymore. No man is worth that.
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reader, thenotsogreat  + ♥, writes (24 October 2009):
 You need to be able to trust him.
It is the most important thing, without it you will never be happy and seure with him. Its time for you both to talk about this.
If you are BOTH willing to work this out, then maybe.
But I think you should leave him
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reader, sunnycomet  + ♥, writes (24 October 2009):
 "I love him but I cant keep going on this way."
I my advice is to break up with him. You can't trust him and without trust a relationship will not last.
Good Luck!
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