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writes:My ex is still in the picture, even though I have a new bf who I live with, My bf is nice, but does not help me out economically, we share expenses, but if I am going to the doctor, he does not even ask me if I have money or not. My ex did supported me economically and now wants me back, but he says if we have no anal sex as we did when we lived together, he would be upset, in fact we tried and as we failed ( since I just did that with HIm, nobody else), he got like crazy. I know, I may sound stupid, but I want you to tell me if a man that loves a woman puts that condition and gets like that if he wants her back. I feel bad for what I am doing, but I have to decide what to do. They both have their good things, but I do not know what to do, myabe none of them are good for me, but just for now, try to help me out please.My ex and I lived together and split up since he broke our engagement ( he was not sure at that time of his feelings), according to him, distance and time has opened uo his eyes.Should I stay with my ex or bf?thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): Each to their own sexually. Your ex has a sexual preference. We all get emotional about the things we want. This is no-ones fault, it is an incompatibility in this area between the pair of you. With your current boyfriend, some-times they raise issues and some-times you raise them, and every person is an individual in the way they communicate to others, and so it can be a case of changing your style. I'm sure he'd help you out if you didn't have enough money for the Dr, after all, he's with you. He probably doesn't know this issue exists. So there's a barrier to overcome with communication here, which may fall into other areas. You need to be bold, and initiate at times, tactfully. So with the first, you both are completely sexually incompatible, and with the second, it's becoming open to learning how to communicate with all types of different people
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