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writes:My daughter's father and I have been sleeping together for over two years now. We met through one of my ex-boyfriends and a few months after we met we saw one another at a party. We both got pretty tipsy and went to his house and had sex. (Later he told me I took his virginity, which I cried over for 3 days) After that, we became friends and continued to sleep together. I told him I really liked him and asked him if it would go anywhere. Well, he told me no. So, I met a sweet guy and dated him for about 6 months. (During that time I had no contact with my daughter's father.) Once he and I broke up, of course, I started sleeping with him again. He still was uninterested on dating me. Well, 6 months later I was pregnant. Whenever I first told him I was pregnant he was pissed off and told me he had a girlfriend and he was very happy with her and didn't want anything to do with me or the baby. Well, a month later, he called me and told me he was sorry, that he was scared and didn't know what to do and that he really didn't have a girlfriend he just didn't want to be with me. Naturally, going through my pregnancy, he was around a lot. We started spending time together and he told me he loved me but still didn't want to label me as his girlfriend. For the last two months of my pregnancy he would not have sex with me, telling me it was weird. Well, whenever our daughter was 7 weeks old we finally had sex again. She is 4 months old now and he has herpes. He told me that while I was in my last two month of pregnancy he slept with someone else and he thinks he got it from her. Recently, he has been living with me and I went through his phone (which I know is wrong, but I had my suspensions) and found pictures of naked women and men. I found dirty texts from women and men and even one telling a girl he loved her. I never knew he was bi either. Whenever I said something to him about it he completely blew up.So, basically what I'm asking is should I stay with him? Should I let him go? He has never bought anything for his daughter. I mean nothing. I just know if I tell him to go he will never see his daughter. I want her to know her father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): I think you should leave him. I do agree with you though when you say that you want your daughter to know her father, but if he wont help take care of and doesnt want to even call you his girlfriend, then why would you want a man around your daughter that doesnt help you take responsibility of taking care of her? Plus if you two are fighting all the time it could really affect your child. Plus hes already cheated so whose to say that he wont do it again? I suggest leaving him and finding a man that will love you and your child and be able to provide for you and your child. I wish you the best of luck.:]
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