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writes:I've been with a girl for 5 months now and I'm crazy about her. The problem is that she is graduating and is leaning towards not being in a long distance relationship for a year until I graduate while I am certain that I would like to give it a shot. I don't want to be in a relationship that has a set expiration date. Do I end it now and get my bearings straight before school gets underway or should I stick it out longer, hope that she changes her mind and risk being emotionally devastated during the week of finals?
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reader, mscard +, writes (23 January 2011):
Hey, man. Listen, if you're crazy about this girl, stick it out. Who knows what will happen. I was in the same situation a couple years ago, and when me and my girlfriend graduated from high school and were headed to separate colleges, she seemed to want to break up. I planned on giving the long distance relationship thing a shot, and she just kept saying "we'll see..." which was not very encouraging. Well, as it turns out, we're still together today, two years later, and we're planning on moving in together in two years, finally, after college. We have our own difficulties, but regardless, we're very much in love. When she looks back on how she felt at the end of high school, she says she was taken with the idea of getting a fresh start in college, and beginning anew, but she quickly realized that she didn't want to let go of the relationships that she already had, and recognized her mistake. I don't know if that's how things will go with this chick. She could be like my girlfriend, and realize that she doesn't really want to let you go, or not. She might really not be as into you as you are her. The point is, though, that you can't ever really know how things are going to shake out, and the best thing you can do is play the hand you're dealt. If it goes south, oh well, life goes on, but if it works out, great. Either way, one thing is certain -- you won't regret not sticking around to find out.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 hi
talk to her about the way you feel. if she is happy to split up while you get on with your studies separately then it seems that she is not as into the relationship as you are.
i think you should make her aware of your feelings about this before you just decide to finish it
xx
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