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*iff160
writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 months and all has been well. Last week I received a job offer from my old workplace. It is a good offer and I really enjoyed working at that place and only left because I started to feel stagnant and was grossly underpaid for my position. When I had worked at my old job, I had been talking to a girl there but it only lasted about a week. We never kissed, dated, or anything along those lines but my intentions were clear. She is a very pretty girl and many guys are constantly interested in her. After she kept playing hard to get, I stopped talking to her and pretty much gave up on it. About a week later, I started talking to my current girlfriend and we hit it off and have a great time together. My girlfriend is aware of what the situation was and I have been totally open with her about it.Now, my old boss is inviting me back, and this girl still works there and my girlfriend has expressed displeasure about the idea of me working there again. I really would like to work there because I would be doing something I really enjoy with some of my good friends (old coworkers). It feels right that I should be working there. Should I not work there simply because my girlfriend is uncomfortable with the idea? I honestly think my girlfriend is being unreasonable but she is set in how she feels. What should I do?
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reader, Biff160 +, writes (9 June 2009):
Biff160 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responces. She does have alot of trust issues and she got pretty upset when I first brought it up about two days ago. I'm letting it settle for a bit, then I will bring it up again. My current job is killing me and my previous was so much more enjoyable. I think what bothers my girlfriend is that this other girl and I never did anything, so the element of "what if" is still present in her head. To be frank, I really don't like this girl, and although she might be good looking she is poison ivy. However, I'm worried that if I take the job, my girlfriend will resent me in some way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): I'm assuming that you don't have tons of different job offers and can pick and choose at your leisure. I think your girlfriend might be being a bit unreasonable. If after you assure her that you don't plan on doing anything with this girl at the office, and she still doesn't want you to do it, then it becomes an issue of trust. I would take the job, and tell her once, very firmly, that you love her and are happy in your relationship, and that you have no interest in this girl (assuming all of that is true). Then, drop it.
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