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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago and I am still having the hardest time getting over him. I have gone further with him that any other guy, but we haven't had sex. I don't know if it is because of this or if I am in love with him. I only dated this guy for a little less than a month and I don't even know him that well. I have broken up with a few guys before, but it has never been this hard. When my boyfriend broke up with me he just told me that he isn't ready to be in a relationship right now and I keep hoping that he will change his mind. I know the last serious relationship he was in he was engaged and his girlfriend ended it, but he never talks about it. I know the best thing is to give him space, but I am so scared that he will just get over me and find someone else. I still see him sometimes, and I know he still likes me but we won't admit it to anyone. Can I really be in love with this guy? and I don't know if I should try to move on or wait for this guy to be ready for a relationship?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 July 2008):
You may have fallen for him hard and fast and it may have scared him. He could have fallen in love with you and that could have scared him.
I'd let him know that you don't want to lose him and think this could be the start of something brilliant and will take it slowly if that's what he wants. But then tell him you don't want to pressure him and are giving him 2 weeks to make him mind up.
Do not contact him at all in that 2 weeks. Let him miss you and realise what he's throwing away. If he gets on touch just to say hi then don't reply. Don't get into conversations about friendship or anything else.
After that 2 weeks is up then you just have to start getting over him I'm afraid.
Hope for the best but expect the worst.
Good Luck!! xx
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