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writes:I feel so confused. I am in love with a friend who lives in a different state to me and he feels the same way for me. He keeps saying how he doesnt think he would ever be able to find another girl like me.The thing is though, i dont want to be in a long distance relationship because i would be constantly worrying that he would stray from me. So I guess it comes down to one of us moving, or us both moving on to someone else who lives closer. I dont think it would be fair of me to ask him to move where i live, i dont think i could ever ask him to give up his life and especialy his career! He has this amazing job which is very unique and he probably woudlnt be able to get a job as great as it in my city. But i myself dont really want to move to where he lives because i love where i live, its my home and my family are here. My family are so important to me and i dont think i could bare living so far away from them, especially not at my age (im 18!). Perhaps if i could be certain that our relationship could work, then i might consider moving to be with him, but at this point in time i just think its such a huge risk and i dont feel i could give up what i have here. but at the same time, i dont want to have to give up the chance of being with him. its such a hard decision. and i know that my parents woudlnt be supportive of me moving away either. He makes hints that i should move to be with him because his city is bigger and 'much better'. In a way its like hes completely forgeting what makes a city your home- its not how big it is, its who is there. Im just worried that if i was to move, it owuldnt work out, and i would be stuck in a big city, where i dont know anyone, where i have no family and where no1 i love is close by. he would be the only person. i dont like the idea of depending on one person so much. I feel stuck ...any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I suggest you telling him everything you told us, communication is the key. Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Hey i understand your situation, my gf who was 18 at the time felt the same as you, however she chose the LONG DISTANCE COMMITMENT, and we both stuck at it , now 5 years later (even tho we had our ups and downs and broke up a few times) we are now finally together, it does work man..BUT THATS IF YOU ARE WILLING TO GO THROUGH THE PAIN AND SACRAFICE IT INVOLVES..YOU WILL SOON REALISE THAT THE ENDING IS WELL WORTH IT. LOVE CONQUERS ALL. GOODLUCK!
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