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writes:For the past 7 months, I have been getting to know a guy that I met through the internet. He lives in another city, and we are both very busy with work and school, so we haven't been able to see each other very much, but we would talk almost every day. The problem is that lately he has been acting very different. I went out of town last week, and right before I left he called and wished me a good trip and he said he had called because he "hadn't heard my voice in awhile." During the time I was gone we texted a few times, but now a week has passed and I haven't heard anything from him. I called when I got back, and he did not answer or call me back. I wrote him an e-mail asking if he would be able to visit in a couple weeks which he did not respond to. I am really disappointed because I feel that he is purposely trying to distance himself from me which could be for a number of reasons like, maybe he met someone else or just lost interest, but that doesn't seem likely since just last week he was acting normal. Another thing is that he has been somewhat depressed most of the time I have known him because of his ex girlfriend who cheated on him. I feel like I'm not sure whether I should just leave him alone and hope that whatever he is doing will pass or work itself out or if I should try to talk to him about it because he is a really great guy and I started to develop feelings for him. I know that there are other guys out there, but I don't want anyone else :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): So during this past week you have heard nothing from him at all? That is strange and a little worrying. It sounds like things were going nicely between you up until his disappearing act, so this is a bit puzzling. Maybe there is something wrong, or something has happened to him? I am not trying to worry you or anything, I'm just thinking of different options. Do you have his parents number, or the number of any of his friends? Is there anyone you could contact who knows him, to see where he is and if he is okay?
Other than that, I don't think there is much else you can do, apart from wait and see if you hear from him. If you do, then an explanation will definitely be required from him! But if time goes by and you still haven't heard from him, then it might be best to try and detach yourself from him and move on. I have no idea why he has suddenly disappeared. I think either something has happened, or he has lost interest and is not willing to tell you upfront. So try waiting a bit longer, and if there is still nothing, start to think about moving on. Whether you get an answer from him or not, you can't put your life on hold waiting. Good luck.
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