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writes:I'm graduating from high school and I wonder if I should invite my bf to the ceremony... We've been going out for almost six months, talk for hrs about everything, and he encourages my writing, my ideas, my goals- he helps me whenever and however he can. Think I love him a little :p but we have an age difference thats quite significant... it allows him to drink/purchase alcohol, own property, etc etc I dont mind it, he's met my close friends, mother and he's won them over.. well my mother is still a bit wary... but anyways, I wonder if he'll feel uncomfortable or weird. I mentioned it to him and he gave a vague answer... should I officially invite him? What do I say if he says no? Reply to this Question
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (13 August 2010):
WhateverMovesThee is verified as being by the original poster of the question Daletom, you're awesome! Thank you for your time and insight! :)
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reader, daletom +, writes (13 August 2010):
I'll guess you're 18 and he's 25. Yes, that's a rather significant gap but not impossible. I hope he's doing everything possible to encourage you toward further education - if not college, then at least some courses at community college. I certainly don't know either of you, but one of the biggest gaps between you two right now is probably intellectual development. Making yourself into the most intelligent, interesting person you can be will help keep him interested!
I hope you will make the effort to help him feel at ease - introduce him to your friends and family so he doesn't feel like such an outsider. You don't need to go into details - just introduce him as something like, "My good friend, David. He helped me get through algebra.".
And he'll take it from there . . . hopefully continue to impress your friends, and convince your parents of his sincerity and good intentions.
And congratulations on finishing High School!
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (13 August 2010):
WhateverMovesThee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for answering, you're so right! I was scared he would feel weird because he's um...older than 25 now. He feels strange sometimes about being around me and my friends...
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reader, daletom +, writes (12 August 2010):
If he really cares for you, he'll want to join you in celebrating this achievement. Why would he feel uncomfortable or weird, apart from the usual jitters of being in a social situation with people you don't know? It sounds like you have done the correct thing by having him get acquainted with your parents, so as long as they approve of your relationship I think it would be almost an insult to NOT invite him!
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