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writes:Ok everyone I'm SO confused and need major help and advice THANKS!I met this girl at my bowling alley (we bowl in the same league and have been for years). I told her how I felt about her, and she liked me too. she was dating this kid and they broke up on monday well I've been talking with her since last week sometime but she tells me how sweet and cute and perfect I am and how much she cares about me, and wants too talk 24/7 she wouldnt ever want to hang up with me we would talk for so long till 3 4 am and she would call me befor school text me while in school everythings perfect not dating just kinda getting to know each other and shes a good girl she didnt like talking to me when she had a bf who she was with for more then 2 years cuz she felt like it was cheating but we kept chatting I went to see her and hang out at the bowling alley last night and I will see her tomorrow the problem is I hung out with her maybe 10 minutes and she had to be home I got up there super late and she told me how much she would love to see me and hang out well we did she left I texted her saying she looked beautiful and everything and I said I think somethings bothering you thoe. she replys I care about you SO much but Im not ready for any boyfriend we cant keep talking like we have. and im kinda upset and try talking with her and she crys its just I cant stop thinking about her and she tells me how good of a time shehad with me but she cant do it right now. and the other thing is I am on probation for fighting a guy who pushed my Ex girlfriend and shes like thats another thing. I said im not a thug I just stck up for what I believed in and when i frist told her about probation she said she thought I did the right thing. So please help! I dont know what to do I'm SO lost and confused and I have to see her tomorrow and I don't know how to act like should I ingore her or should I just be her friend like she wants even though that's gonna kill me? and if I am her friend maybe she will want to go back to the way things were? HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Just be her friend for now and ease back a bit. She just broke up with her ex bf and maybe she's not ready to rebound into another dating relationship with anyone.. It could also mean she is still working out her feelings from this first guy. It also sounds like she likes you a lot but not enough to date at this point. But don't be disheartened, it can still work out, in the future. But remember, you can't change her mind, or keep bugging her so the key here is acceptance of what you share with her. Sounds like you both have a special friendship and that in itself, is awesome! Focus on being just her friend, only.. talk to her in school, say hi and smile. Let her know in subtle ways, you are still there for her and you aren't mad at her.. That's all you can do for now. I would also suggest you not put all your eggs in one basket here...you are young and you should be having fun. Get to know other females your age and think about asking them out, as well. You have one life..be positive and seek your own happiness. Get out there and enjoy the romantic attentions of other people., as well. Good luck.
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