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Should I hook up with my second cousin?

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Question - (20 June 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2009)
A male United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

ok so me and my second cousin have never really talked. ever. infact we berely ever used to see each other, only like once every other month at family reunions.

and well recently me and my family and my second cousins family got together because they were invinting us to their youngest daughter's 15th birthday party in mexico.

so they all come including my second cousins wich i find to be very attractive and very nice (now that we actually talked for once). so we talked and talked and just had a great time meeting eachother.

it seems as if i just met a really good friend not a cousin.

the other day the last time i saw her we said our goodbyes and agreed once we both are at the town in mexico id go pick her up so that we can take a jog and hang out.

so that was something thats going to go down for sure

just a jog and hang out.

well..after they left our house my mom warns me saying "son your cousin looks at you in a very attracted way, be carefull with what you guys do over in mexico dont do anything bad"

so i asked myself if she really did look at me in that attracted way and it sure seems like she does look at me in that attracted way when we are talking.im sure i look at her that way aswell just dont realize

so i ask myself if that is the case and she decides to try and hook up with me up in mexico just for a one time thing should i?

i find her to be very attractive and ive never really "met" her until now

i berely consider her family although she is

so im just curious about your guy's opinions on if i should do a one night stand with my second cousin... even though its not a for sure thing i just want to know what to do if things do go down.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009):

You said: 'so i ask myself if that is the case and she decides to try and hook up with me up in mexico just for a one time thing should i?'

A one-time thing is just the opposite from a more permanent basis. Ok - so what you want is one-time sex unless I'm mistaken, just to get it off your chest, so to speak. That means you're looking at her as a piece of meat to have sex with rather than a potential long term partner. The most fulfilling relationships are long term ones, so that's what I'd advise you to aim for.

Self-respect comes into it too. If she's got any self-respect she'll want more than a one night stand, and so should you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009):

well speaking from my own personal life i have a cousin who ended up a stripper and well one night we were out she was trying to hook me up with one of her friends but it fell threw and she never showed up so my cousin and i shared many many many drinks and after a little convo i found out she thought i was cute and well to be honest i thought she was vary sexy well we ended up back at her place and she was teasing me with a lap dance well one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping with each other (i know she was my cousin but damn was it good) seance then she doesn't talk to me much anymore and i feal the special bond i had with her is gone but we do run into each other at family events (akword moments) so just see what happens and really think on your options me i say go for it but just make sure she wants the same thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009):

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what do you mean by more permanent basis?

just like actually start a good relationship?

and you guys dont think its wrong to do that with a second cousin?

it all really depends on morals really rite?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009):

Well i agree with Phil if you do anything, don't make it a one night stand, taht's just sleazy. And did you ask if she is single? Because i wouldn't want tyou to make a move on a taken lady

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009):

No, you shouldn't do a one night stand with her. If you're going to do anything with her it should be on a more permanent basis.

If things 'go down' then they go down. You can't do anything 'bad' with your second cousin, it's not illegal or anything, and if I were you I'd ignore your mother. She's looking through a pair of blinkers.

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