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writes:I want to be an actor, and, as I'm sure you know,that is a career choice that takes A LOT of hard work and dedication. Plus, I'd have to move to a big city like New York of California.But the girl I'm in love with doesn't want to leave Florida(where we currently live),and she wants to stay here because if she moved her mother would be here all by herself. I can't try to convince her to move with me to NY,because how I was raised, family comes before anything.I'm also a good writer, so maybe I could write as a career-choice instead. I'm aware that's not going to make me a lot of money, but she's becoming a doctor, so I'm sure between the two of us we could live decently.But I guess the main question I'm trying to ask is:Should I just give up my acting career so I can be with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Considering your age, no. A career you have with you always. A relationship that may pan out not so much. If you are successful on Broadway you can always get her back if she is available. She may change her mind too or visit you sporadically as your career progresses. Who knows. Take a shot at NY and see what happens. If you stay in FL you'll always think you coulda been somebody!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Life is short, i agree with the many people saying this.
But to be honest I believe there is more to life than just a career...working from 9-5 just for money to survive. Ofc what I'm saying is very watered down to your dreams but that's just how I see it.
It's rly up to you on what you want more. What do you want more, the career or the girl...
I'd choose the girl though. But thats just me
The girl may not be the one, but then again you may not make it in the acting industry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): As of right now, you don't have an acting career. Are you involved in any plays or theatre or commercials where you live? Have you had any formal training? What have you written? Have you taken any classes on creative writing? Have you submitted any of your work? Have you auditioned for anything in your area?
I know a couple of people that have been in tv episodes and played small roles in film but they don't live in NY or Ca. They started where they lived and then built a resume from there. One eventually moved to CA but that was after she landed a role in a tv series, before that she was in Oregon. You don't just move and then because of the location, get parts in shows. Go to college and major in theatre or creative writing. I think you are putting the cart before the horse? That way you can still be with your girlfriend and get training and see if you have any real talent at either of those things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): If you stay, will resentment build up? I think as your both young, you should put your career (dream) first. You can always have a LDR
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): If you didn't persue your dreams, imagine how you would feel, say 5-10 years down the line. If you're not in a better position then than you are now, and unhappy with your job, you're going to be thinking 'What if?'. If you were to leave your girlfriend to persue your career, and let's say you didn't make it as an actor, then you may think, 'What if I stayed with my girlfriend?'. If you did make it as an actor, then maybe this would be slightly different. Let's say you may have found someone else, or if you're still in love with what would be your ex girlfriend, you might think 'I wish I could have shared this with her'.Another outcome, would be that you stay together, either as a LDR, or she moves with you. If she moved with you, which as you said she isn't keen on doing, you two could make regular trips to see her mum, and both of your families. And vice versa. I'm sure she could become a doctor in a city you'd consider moving to.If it was a LDR, depending if she agreed to this, then this may be a strain on your relationship. It could work, but it may not. Then say you split up and then you realised it's much harder to become an actor than you thought. Even if you stayed in Florida, and didn't persue your career dreams, then a few years later you split up, again you may think 'What if?' becaus of course you know now it didn't work out between you two.What I'm trying to say is, no matter what choice you make, if it doesn't work out, you will always wonder 'What if'. It's the risk that you have to take.I'm not saying you can't become an actor, because you have just as much chance as everyone else out there. You have to think very carefully, and know that you have to take responsibilty for whatever choice you make. OF course it's important to consider others opinion, but ultimately you it's down to you, you don't want to resent your family or girlfriend in the future because they said you shouldn't do it, or even (in an extreme case) because a few of us said, 'Go for it! Or No stay with your girlfriend!'. I hope you can see what I'm trying to say :). Whatever choice you make there's a possibilty of an outcome you won't like. Weigh out your options before you decide anything. Good luck! Keep us posted :)
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