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writes:Should I give him a second chance? I've been with my boyfriend for two years. I really do love him. But recently he has been always down in the dumps, alomost depressed i think, and a little emotionally abusive towards me. Even though I know everyone will argue with me, I know he doesn't do it on purpose. He has some anger problems but not to the point where he would ever hurt me, I just dont like to hear him mad. So last Friday I broke it off. That was the hardest thing I've EVER done. Breaking up with someone you love sucks. I never really brought up how I was feeling to him before, so I guess I blindsighted him... Since then he has schelduled a doctors appt for today to see whats wrong with him. His mom thinks this internet game he's been playing plays a oart in it too so she quit the internet at their house. He says that if he cant have me he doesnt want to be alive... I do love him and I miss him already. I miss him so much. I dont know if I should give him a second chance or not. His mom called me and said that she knows he will change and it took a kick to get him to straighten up but that he would do anything for me. Their family has had some problems with depression before. His grandpa commited suicide over it and his mom says hes begginning to act like him and shes scared. I dont know what will happen if I stay away. I do care about him soo so much. I dont know what to do. Will he change? Or is it only a matter of time till he goes back? Should I risk it and see what happens, or should I just run while I'm ahead?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): get some friends and get over it and move on.
You're young and alive.
Just breath and move on.
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reader, hunkydory  +, writes (3 August 2009):
You have just answered the question yourself, your sad, yur down and its because you dont have this guy in your life! Ask yourself is it really worth throwing away this relationship because your boyfriend is feeling a bit down just now? if yes then dont give him a second chance, if no then you obvs love him and dont want to leave him. Have you told him how you feel about it all? I think that you should both meet up and sit down and talk about the situation from both sides, but there is no point in hiding something.
Good luck =) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): hey, I think my ex of 2 years dumped me for the same reason, for a second, I was wondering if you were my ex, however she left me for good, i was at a low point in my life, I became depressed, jobless, had family problems, and didnt know where I was going, didnt expect the break up, however it happened. I beileve in second chances espesially if you love him, just make sure that you need to see change inorder to stay with him, after my girl broke up with me, i got a job, lost weight went to the doctor to see what was wrong with me, I did a lot but she never came back to me. But also dont put yourself in a situation that you're gonna regret, sometimes you need to say goodbye, do what you feel is right.
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