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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Met a boy a couple of weeks ago when our two mutual friends set us up (at his request, after seeing my profile online). At first I wasn't really interested in the whole set-up thing, but after meeting him and spending the weekend together (the 4 of us, very g-rated), I really like this guy.He likes me too, I think. He emailed right after the weekend saying he wanted to take me out on a date, and we've traded emails and phone calls a few times since then. He sent a sweet card for valentine's day, which I thought was really nice.Here's the catch: boy lives two hrs away, and we're both insanely busy with our jobs. He gets about one weekend off per month, and I probably only get a little more than that.I'm generally of the view that I shouldn't have to try too hard to make things work -- if a boy's interested, he'll work things out so he can see me. That said, my mom, sisters, aunts -- basically everyone i know -- tell me my last relationship (which ended badly, w/ me heartbroken) left me very guarded - too guarded, actually. And they think that, as a result, boy may be feeling unsure abt whether I'm really interested.We'd originally been supposed to go skiing this weekend in a group of four (me, the boy, and the two friends who set us up), but that fell through b/c the friends had other stuff come up.The question: Is it bad for me to email boy and suggest that we get together this weekend? I already did it, so I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance (or suggestions for damage control). I have girlfriends who are simply incapable of waiting to see whether a boy will ask them out. There are other boys I could go out with this weekend, but the long-distance one is the one I'd really like to see again.
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reader, daisydaresyou  +, writes (29 February 2008):
Life is for living and right now you wanna see this guy so I think you did the right thing. You don't know where this is going, its at such an early stage, but you like him and will have a fun weekend spending time with him so really I don't think you need to worry beyond that. So ultimately, don't over think things! Perhaps that's what your mum and everyone was getting at. Just go with the flow and see what happens.
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