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writes:I've posted here before but about my last relationship. I'm back this time however to ask something else.I'm in a new relationship now and my bfs mother is abit much. She seems to have a strong personality from what I hear (constantly arguing with other women and such). I was warned about her before I started dating my boyfriend. I met her last week at a gathering at my friend's house(whose cousin I'm dating) and she wasn't really that nice. My sister and I were introduced to her and she didn't smile, she just said hello . . . NO smile . . . NO pleased to meet you . . . NOTHING! + she kept staring at me all weird the entire evening.She asked my boyfriend if I'm his Gf and he told her that I am and that she should accept it. My question is, should I even try to talk to this woman? Or try to get her to know me before she treats me like crap? Would appreciate some mature feedbackPS I'm the first gf of her son's that she ever got to meet
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for all of your comments and for taking the time to read about my lil predicament. I appreciate all the advice/comments.
Maybe I will try to get to know her, but by the looks of things it certainly won't be anytime soon.
My reply to the comment made by iamheretohelpyou, the mother inlaw comment I made was just a sarcastic one so I hope you don't think I'm some young nut job with high hopes cause I'm not . . . I just like laughing about some things sometimes but thanks to you as well.
Hope you guys have more luck than I'm having with all your problems.
God bless
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (22 February 2013):
I would like to focus on three bits in your submittal which give me an opening to offer "mature" advice....
First, you include these two phrases: "from what I hear" .... and, "I was warned about her...." The mature me sez don't give much creedence to what you hear and what you were warned about. Find out about this woman by and for yourself..... AND,
Regarding your questions: "My question is, should I even try to talk to this woman? Or try to get her to know me before she treats me like crap?" WHY not approach her WITHOUT negative expectations? .... and allow yourself to present the "pleasant" and "engaging" you.... and allow her to reciprocate.... and start (your's and her interaction) on a "clean slate" rather than on one tainted by what you heard and what you were warned about....
You may be pleasantly surprised to find/learn that this woman is a lot nicer than the woman you heard about and were warned about.... and there is 'way more information about your "friends" in those warnings than there is information about this woman who is alleged to be "a bit much...."
I hope you strike up a nice conversation with her... and find that she's a lot nicer that her critics told you...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2013): I feel like I've been in a similar predicament as you. My boyfriend had warned me that his parents are very difficult and they had given people that he and his sister had dated a really hard time. Because I found it unusual and didn't quite understand what I was dealing with, I paid no heed to his warnings, let my guard down and found myself as the object of alot of intrusion, unfairness and harrassment on their part. As of now, I have zero contact with them. My advice to you is DO listen to the warnings, keep your guard up, and try to keep as much distance as you can between you and his mom in order to avoid conflict. And do not be offended by her attitude at all. It is her issue not yours. Do not let her push you around, intimidate you, subdue you or interfere in your relationship. Tell her as little as possible about yourself and your relationship. And make sure your boyfriend does the same. People like that will take any information they have on you and use it against you. So keep contact to the bare minimum.
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