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writes: I am married (in name only & live with my husband as "flatmates") and have 2 small boys.I have recently just found my lost love again.We 1st met over 20 years ago and never got our timing right !!We are both very keen to meet up again and he is single.My question is do you think it would be silly to try get back my lost love. Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, M.O.M, writes (14 January 2005): Dear Lost Love, Although I understand that you are unhappy in your current marriage, leaving it to go back to someone you haven't seen in 20 yrs may not be the solution either. Remember, most people grow and develop over the course of the life cycle. In other words, he and you are not the same people you were twenty years ago. Your current unhappiness may also be driving your desire to reconnect with your lost love. I do not recommend any major decision when we find ourselves unhappy. Additionally, you have two small children to take into consideration and the effect of your choice will have an impact on them. Divorce unquestionnably impacts children and now you want them to have another person come into their lives. My advice would be for you and your husband to engage in some marriage counseling. This is not to say that your marriage will be saved but at least you can discover what the issues are so you don't take them in to your next relationship. If you discover it can't be saved then I recommend you move very slowly and cautiously should you decide to rekindle the flame with your lost love.
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