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Should I forget about him or wait for that first date?

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Question - (5 February 2022) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2022)
A female South Africa age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi all.

I'm 42 years old female, whose unmarried with no kids, Have my own house and stay alone. Recently I've just learned that there's this guy who is 37 years old who has some interest in me. I've met him when I had a problem with their product, so he was the one who was assisting me to sort it out. He got my number because of that.

After a year or so he send me a heart and told me how he feels. I did asked questions like how old and how many kids he has he has a 1 child and his unmarried too.

My problem with him he keeps quiet for a long time. He would talk if I'm the one who starts to talk to him. We haven't went on a date, so I'm still waiting for a date. I even asked to say how does he maintains relationships cause his quiet. He said he will make time for the one he loves. Am still waiting for the date.

My problem is he's too quiet. Yes we are not yet dating but the silence is not making me happy at all. I mean how will that makes me to even start a relationship with a person that I will have to be the one to communicate first.

Is there anyone who had met someone then they just relax and talk about that their busy for now till they plan for our dates and it seems like I will wait forever for that date.

I mean I feel like I will just meet someone and forget about him because this for me is just boring. I mean in order to get his attention I must be the one who approach him first thats when he will tell me that he misses me and will make some time to meet for our first date.

ive known him for a year but we started chatting about us in December 2021 then a week ago he told me that he wants to meet me on a date. There's no that good morning or good night kind of a vibe. His just quiet. So I'm getting bored. Should I forget about him or wait for that date?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2022):

I'm sorry, it seems to me the guy isn't really interested at all; but just being polite. Maybe he's afraid to lose you as a customer, or a client.

You said this was about a defective product? Maybe he was schmoozing you to keep you from filing a formal complaint to a consumer advocate agency. If his company has been receiving many complaints about that product, he may not even be interested in you; but making sure you haven't joined in as a plaintiff in a pending class-action law suit. What kind of product was it? Has it caused you any physical injury? Have you sustained any kind of damages or loss due to use of the product?

I think you've been played!

It boggles my mind that you still bother! The guy claims to be interested, and has never asked you out on a date. Seems to me, that he just tells you what you want to hear when you make an effort to contact him.

I suggest you stop calling and block his number.

I guess you're probably very lonely, but I don't understand why you're wasting your precious time pursuing this guy?

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (8 February 2022):

kenny agony auntI think that you are talking yourself out of going on a date with him already which is not a good sign.

It has been a while now, nothing has happened and he has not stepped up and arranged anything until only a week ago. By your own admission you say that you are getting bored, it you are getting bored even before the first initial date then surely this is a sign that he is not for you.

Or alternatively try that first date and see how it goes, and see if your feelings are different. But in my opinion if your getting negative thoughts and feelings about it before you even been out i would be inclined to move on.

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