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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,I have known a girl whom i am friends with for a couple of years now. I have asked her out twice and both times she has pretty much said no, there was alot of strange reasons that she gave but clearly she was just trying to be nice about it. I have gradually been feeling less appreciated as we were good friends after i had asked her out. But i am now curious on wether I should tell her that i don't want to be friends with her anymore due to trying to forget about her and move on, i have tried before but have winded up falling for her again. Should i finally completely break things off with her or should I just try to man up and get over her myself ?Thanks :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2013): This is something that you will have to try and test for yourself- regardless of how much the friendship means, you should try to be friends for as long as you can- you may find you can't, in which case just move on or you may end up in a mental ward- two good friends of mine had such a great, sparky friendship, were so close And alike- but he was in love with her, I forget how many times she knocked him back cause she just wasn't attracted. Anyway this was going on for a few years, he eventually started losing the plot, all kinds of stuff- one time he jumped and swam in a pond in JANUARY- to impress her. Then hes admitted to this private psychiatric place- on the Nhs, eh? I'm sorry I digress lol... :/ HOWEVER sometimes it just takes the right angle to score... Lol! There was a bloke who I met, had no attraction to him whatsoever, but he would hold me when I was upset, he was just there when really needed help and I grew to be mad about him... I still am actually! Try one more time, don't ask her out again, work on her from the heart ; hold off any neediness, act self reassured - but really connect with her emotionally , try and help her with these problems? If it doesn't happen after this, you will just have to move on, see others and get on with your life... Get closure from this one last try,Good luck! :) - o and I advise against kissing her when you're drunk (last post)- people kiss people they're not attracted to when drunk, she may kiss you back, wake up in the morning with no recollection- mixed signals, will mess with your head... !
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2013): your in the friend zone not gonna happen put it this way what is their infornt of you will never be missed. so cut it off send a message a month later if she hasn't sent you one saying hi or something if she reponds the next message you send might be you last so be a man on that one tell her why you stayed away etc
or get hammered one night kiss her and act like you were sorry then don't contact her for a while and do the above that way you final know if she likes you and if she does you leaving her wanting more or if she doesn't then you can move on
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