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writes:hello everyone i have a serious queshtion wether what im doing is right or not. ok so ive been dateing this amazing guy for 4 years. and i would never wanna do anything to upset him or lose trust for me. so anyways me and my bf have instagram, we dont have fb we both deleted ours years ago. Hes always getting mad at me when guys comment on my picture about my body, and ignores me and gets really upset. I model in bathing suits and clothing. i get clothes sent in the mail to me to take pictures and try to sell them online for the line and so on ( of course i have a job this is more of just a hobby) my bf doesnt like it because sometimes the cloths are very form fitting and sometimes shows clevlage. it got to the point were everytime i would upload a photo my bf would get angry, so i just stopped, now heres the part i need help with, i set up a facebook account a few days ago so i could upload my photos and sell the cloths. i have taken alot of pictures already and they sell like crazy. i just feel really guilty of doing this behind his back. i need the extra money though. im scared hes going to find out and break up with me or something. what i just want to know is, is what im doing wrong? is it a type of lying? and betrayal? i just dont know what to do. i need a point of view from someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): ( person who asked this queshtion )
thank you to tranced rhythm ear you made really good points, and aslo i have tried several times to tell my bf that i do not read into the comments, doesnt work
& also thank you to the anonymous reader that said i do care for my bf, cause i really do . and yes he is a bit controlling i realized but the moment i tell him something i dont likethat hes doing he calls me crazy and gets really mad. so idk what to do or how to sit him down and tell him this. i really dont wanna upset him
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013):
He sounds pretty jealous and tad controlling.. Honesty in my world is the best policy .. Normally if we fib or lie not meaning to hurt someone else it normally bites us in the ass..
You need the cash and don't let anyone say you don't care for your guy or you wouldn't be on here posting this issue..
Sit him down, tell him the truth get him involved . He can help choose a couple of pics but hey at the end of the day, do not let anyone rule what you wear etc. do not let him bully you.. But be prepared in my opinion from what you've posted he ain't going to be happy ..
Keep us posted sweetie x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2013): ....so, basically you don't actually love him enough to explain to him you need the extra money, and then you two could work out a solution together. Instead, you ignore his feelings, and continue. I know is perfectly safe, but just distasteful to him, I think that's how he sees it. He sees his beautiful girl showing off her charms for money for anyone to see. That hurts him.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (18 March 2013):
 Hey kittenBe honest with him n communicate. Its about trust. He needs to realize hes the prize n have more confidence in himself this will help him ignore ppls comments. You can help him by reassuring u dont care or read into their comments s and that its a job for u only. Ur objective is to make money not meet men. Good luck.
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