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writes:Hi, i am havving some issues with my friends. they seem to arrange outings e.g shopping or swimming but they never ever invite me. i feel really hurt and let down by them becuase they always do this and even my best friend doesnt care but its ok for her becuase she always gets an invite. it upsets me that they leave me out and they splash what they are doing on facebook.and what really upsets me is that they invite this girl that hates me and slags me off to anyone that will listen.am i right to be upset? should i confront them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Try talking to them- tell them you feel very left out and want to know why they don't include you in activities if they are your friends. Maybe they have no idea that this hurts you so much. Give it a try. If they are doing this on purpose to upset you, then they are not very nice friends and you should hang out with other people who will invite you and respect you. But try talking it out first. Good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 It sounds like these so called friends are being rather passive- aggressive. If what you complain about would have happened just two or three times, no big deal. They might have forgotten, or just got lazy about calling you- hey it happens. But since they never ever include you in their outings, it seems like they want you out of their group without the embarassment to tell you that in your face, they hope that if they keep ignoring you, eventually you'll stop asking,or even expecting, being included.Confronting them ? It might be a good idea just if could carry it off without getting whiny,angry and emotional. You know, just asking, smooth and casual- Is there by any chance any of you who's got issues with me ? Do we want to talk about it ?But honestly I am afraid that ,due to your young age, and the fact that obviously you are very hurt, you could not be so cool and collected. So I have another suggestion : your so called friends seem a rather mean ,insensitive bunch of people anyway. Why don't you just forget about them and start hanging out with different people ?Chin up ,kiddo- and remember : WHO DOES NOT WANT YOU DOES NOT DESERVE YOU: make this your mantra !
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