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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:* OP's Original Title *I'll try and keep this short. I have a female best friend. Last autumn, a few people thought they saw a change in her behaviour that suggested she liked me more than as a friend. She was asked by a mutual friend if this was the case and she said no.I have discovered today that a HUGE number of our mutual friends actually thought we were having an affair as recently as April, but all based on the way she was behaving around me. The friend who told me this today said she knew I wasn't having an affair with her because she knows I would never do that.My partner and I split up in April - not because of this - but people could easily put two and two together and make the assumption. Incidentally, my best friend seems to have backed away not just from me (I have barely heard from her in a month whereas she usually emails several times a day) and several other close friends have also reported her backing off for no obvious reason. She has also changed her behaviour tremendously - she started seeing a guy and slept with him on the third date (this being someone who never sleeps with someone until she is in love), is obviously using her for sex because he barely keeps in touch with her and everyone says this is totally unlike the woman we have known for years.I am distancing myself from her for obvious reasons, but I wonder whether I should tackle her on her behaviour towards me and others at the moment - I suppose partly for closure to our friendship but because I OWE her the chance to explain things because she is my best friend?
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reader, babe7stuff +, writes (4 July 2010):
I think maybe you love her too?
If so you should tell her, if not maybe you should tell her you just love her as a friend?
but you need to be honest either way
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